Jason::Adams

Notes on networking: You dont have to actually really have value to give value, you can create it just through bein knowledgeable. For example I am on a bunch of club lists, and information that is sent to met hat I rarely ever read. When i do see the myspace’s bulletins with people hiring, you can always send the job offers to people you may not think need it, just to show you are thinking of them and providing value. I provide information, you can sometimes structure it like its priveleged information to make it better. Myspace chloe, cultureshock, they say they hiring. I provide the rest of my networking with that information, for their benefit and my networks benefit. This provides value from my network for my network. Self regeneration in effect. What others ways can a network self regenerate like that? I should look up finding a contacts database manager on my computer, someplace where I can easily upload my contacts from my phone etc. And write in notes, information, organize it by tags etc. This way i could do a search for anyone with a related term, get their emails, and easily send out value to that list. Sort of an email list manager, for my network. Easily providing custom value. Note you can also provide value by showing your interested in something, just because someone else is. Someone is of a religion, going to a religious event to show your interested because of their interest. Can you just show interest in anything someones interested in to provide value? Or is that just building rapport? Whats the difference?

So ever since I was a little kid, I’ve always been scared of death.  I remember nightly before going to sleep, wishing individually for everyone i loved not to die.  I’m more scared of my loved ones dieing.  I realize now  while living by myself, that I’m still very much scared of death.  The more I think about it, the more scared I get,the more I read about it, the bleaker things seem to be…. I search online to see peoples thoughts on death, and the only way people are coping is by believing in some religion or by believing that their is life after death?  Am I supposed to trick myself into believing to calm my soul?  I seem to believe that at any moment, I or my loved ones could go. And after that, there is nothing.  Even stories fade, after 3 generations no one will be thinking of me after I’m gone.  This is all rather depressing to think about, but I feel like It’s something I need to think about, something I need to learn to deal with.  This feels like something that could cripple me emotionally and I need to be stronger, I need to have an understanding with my lovedones about that inevitable act.  Maybe I’ll have a talk with my Dad, Mom, Brother, Sister…. but have they ever thought about it?? Do they really want to hear it? Do I really want to hear what they have to say?

Death sucks man.

“Self improvement is masturbation, self destruction is the answer.”

 — Tyler Durden, Fight Club

Audiobook: First things first - stephen r. covey

Need to Live: Physical Needs, Clothing, Shelter

Need to Love: Social need to relate to other people. To belong. To be accepted. To love.

Need to Learn: Mental need to grow and to develop, and to use those talents.

Need to Leave a Legacy: Spiritual need, to have a sense of meaning, to add value, to have a sense of purpose of personal harmony and contribution.

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How do you seek to fullfill these needs? These needs are external realities, they are there whether someone chooses to see them or not.

Law of the Farm - Most people go through college, cramming. Doing all of the work in one night, with a minimal amount of effort. I’m definately in that group.  What have I lost because I chose to do this? I feel like I have gained a more active social life, but what was the purpose of me going to college? Was it to increase my social circle? Was it to gain knowledge? Was it to get the paper.  The Law of the Farm is simple.  Could you imagine cramming on a farm? Putting the seed in for your crops, right before your supposed to fertilize them? Tearing up the soil, before your crops are grown? It never works, and never will work.  In the end it will always catch up to you, the hens will come to roost.

Selfawareness - capacity to stand apart from ourselves, examine our own motives, history, habits, etc.

Conscience- connects us with the wisdom of the ages, and the wisdom of the heart. Lets you sense when acting contrary to principle.

Creative Imagination- power to invision a future state, to create something in our mind, to solve problems in new ways synergistically, so that we are not a product of our past, or of our memory. This allows us to see others differently, it allows to write mission statements, it empowers to visualize ourselves living our mission statements even in the most difficult circumstances.

Independent Will - capacity to act, power to transcend our scripts, our paradigms, power to swim upstream if we so choose, to act on based on principle rather than reacting based on emotion, mood, or circumstance. WE ARE NOT A PRODUCT OF OUR PAST, WE ARE A PRODUCT OF OUR THOUGHTS and ACTIONS (our choices, response able, able to respond).

How do I use these endowments? Keep a journal, this helps create self awareness. You observe your own involvement. Enhancess all others as well. What do you write in a personal journal? If you dont like a result your getting in your life, write about it. How do consequences flow? Analyze self defeating proccesses. Write and observe. This will help you make WISE choices. Educate your concscience by learning, listening, and responding to it. You can read/ponder about, learn from previous experiences, learn from others.  Take time to be still and to listen to your deep inner voice. Act in harmony with your inner voice. Independent Will? Learn to make and keep promises. Value your word. It’s like making deposits into your personal integrity account, therefore the opinion we have of ourselves is increased. Make and keep your promises, especially to yourself. Don’t over promise or under deliver. This will help level out the emotional ups and downs of your life. Build your sense of honor. Honor is greater than any mood.
A mans life was totally broken, full of flaking, a life of procrastination and selfishness. He must tap into his unique human endowments. Will you get up in the morning when you say your planning to get up? Will you simply get up in the morning? –How will this help you ask?– YOUR body is the only instrumetn through which you operate in life. If you dont get control of your body, how can you control the expressions that come through your body and your mind. –Dont know if you can?– Do you think you could for a week? –WILL YOU GET UP WHEN YOU DECIDE TO GET UP FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK? — After that week, your life will become more integrated. Little steps, keep commitments with yourself, keep the commitments a secret, and way for the people around you to notice changes about you.  Making and keeping promises to yourself, helps you keep promises to others. If you don’t you will hurt the relationships around you.   Creative Imagination? Use visualization. This is a mental excercise used by world class athletes and performers. Use this to nurture the quality of your own life.  Try to visualize a circumstance that would create a feeling of discomfort or pain. Instead of seeing yourself react as you normally do, see yourself act on the principles you are convinced will create results. Use courage and consideration.

Step 1: Connect with your vision and mission - Organize your coming week. Connect with whats most important as your life as a whole. Context gives meaning. What do you care about? What makes the moments in your life meaningful? What do you want to be and what do you want to do? What kind of person am I? What kind of contributions do I want to make? What are the most important relationships in your life? Most important responsibilities? What feelings do you want to have in your life? (Peace, Happiness, etc.) How would you spend the coming week, if you had 6 mos to live? Where is your true north? See beyond your present reality, to become what you are not yet. Live out of your imagination instead of your memory.

Step 2: Identify your roles - Important roles in family, in community, other areas of life.  They represent responsibilities in life.  Vice president? Parent? Spouse? Personal Development? A clear set of roles is needed. Do these roles work well together for the accomplishment in your mission or vision? Sharpen the Saw role: Foundation for succes in other roles, a metaphor for the energy we invest in increasing our personal capacity in the four fundemental areas, the physical, the social, the mental and the spiritual. We are so busy sawing that is producing results, that we forget to sharpen our saw. To maintain or increase our capacity to produce results in the future. The way you see the problem is the problem. Don’t be dichotomous. Think of many things. Life is one indivisible whole. Friend? Employee?

Step 3: Select Important but not Urgent Life Goals for each Role: What is the most important thing I could do in this role, this week to have the greatest positive impact? Look at the week in the context of a longer term, vision, mission statement.  Without principles goals will never have the ability to produce quality life results. A principle centered goal, is the right thing, for the right reason, in the right way.

Step 3: Create a descicion making framework for the week:  Organize on a weekly basis, not on a daily basis. Keep focus on a more long term goal, rather than just whats in front of us. HEADLIGHTS? The key is to offer integrity in that very moment.

Step 4: Train yourself to ask these questions, review what you did. What goals did I achieve? What decisions did I make? Did I fullfill goals in my role? Did I keep my endowments and principles in mind? Focus on contributing rather than consuming.

Quality of life, absolutely depends on how much you align everything in your life to true north. To where you want to be, your goals and vision in your life. Principle centered life.

Visualizations of things id like to have, or places id like to go, pictures that mean something to me, you wont understand, but if your trying to analyze, realize that almost every picture has nothing to do with the surface level subjects. Must learn to think differently.  Here’s a riddle for you:     H I J K L M N O            ,  What 5 letter word is the answer ?

Believing is seeing.  Your thoughts make up who you are and what you become.  The universe conforms to my reality.  Learn to focus on WHAT YOU WANT rather than WHAT YOU DON’T WANT.  Anything you want can be yours, anything you don’t want can also be yours.  Put your effort into things you want for your life, things you want about yourself. Be grateful. Gratitude.  Find a rock, one thats small enough to fit in your pocket.  Keep it with you everywhere, and every time you see it or think about it, take a second to think…. What am I grateful for? What is good about what is happening right now? What is good about where I’m at right now? …. Learn to be positive, because it takes just as much energy to be positive as it does to be negative.  Whether your life is wonderful or horrible is a distinction based solely on choice.  You have decided what HAPPENS to you.  VISUALIZE what you want, LIVE what you want, FEEL what it is to be happy.  Ultimately your happiness will drive you to success.  THERE IS NO WHERE TO GO BUT UP, IF YOUR ALREADY HAPPY WITH ANYWHERE YOUR AT.  Your dreams and aspirations, become realities and objects, based on focus and action.  Miracles happen, put yourself in a place where Miracles happen, put yourself in a place where Miracles happen to you, put yourself in a place where you CONTROL Miracles.  EVERYTHING and ANYTHING is possible.  Do you really believe it?

The thousands of wise men and women before you, the famous quotes all around, why are they still remembered, dont you think they knew something?

Believing is seeing.

The Universe is your Genie, and all it ever says is “Your wish is my command.”

Your wish, is my command.

Just finished watching the snowboarding movie “First Descent”.  It was a movie about several pro snowboarders, some new, some old (Two 18 year old kids considered to be the best in the world, FRIGGIN 18 years old, what are you doing with your life?)… making a conquest to ride some of the last mountains to never be ridden before.  I wrote this message to Sean shortly after watching the movie:

 ORBITAL    264: the possibilities in your life are endless sean, had you made 1 different choice previously, at this exact moment in time you could be standing on top of a mountain no man has snowboarded before, you could be the first person to ride that mountain.  The fresh air, the adrenaline pumping, exhilirating feeling of being the explorer, being the pioneer, all because you made ONE different choice. What choices did you make today?

 Just reflects how I felt after watching the movie…. inspired …. frustrated …. amazed.  It’s just inspiring to think about how ENDLESS the possibilities are for your life, had you decided to go snowboarding with some friends, you could become the worlds greatest snowboarder.  How different is Shaun White’s reality than mine? He’s 18 years old, and he sees a mountain that no one has ever had the balls to ride before, and he says “Fuck it, I’m going to do it.” ACTION, once again making the difference between champ and chump.  Eighteen Years Old and he decides hes better than any man before him.  Amazing things the body and mind can do together.  The only problem? Making my own life one worth remembering… Making my life a life full of  ACTION rather than INFORMATION.  Why am I not amazing at Snowboarding? Why am I not a proffesional Sky Diver?  What other things have I left to experience in life, and how many days do I have to experience these things? I don’t think I have enough time, so how can I rationalize what Ive been doing as of lately? Sitting around, barely paying attention to my studies, passing by, getting this “Paper” degree….. All for what? To please OTHER people, to convince SOMEONE ELSE that I’m good enough to be hired?  I can’t help like their’s some sort of an EGO issue, when Im working to please other people, so that I can work for them.   Hard to put into words, but thats exactly why I’m writing more often, to learn how to put things in my head onto paper.  I feel I have alot to live for, and I have alot I can leave this world.  Somewhere along the line, I’m going to be considered a Pioneer….. In what? ….. Who knows? ….. but I will make my mark on this world.  The Key? ………………..ACTION……………………

 

“A beginning is a cause, and as such it must be followed by an effect, or a train of effects, and the effect will always be of the same nature as the cause. The nature of an initial impulse will always determine the body of its results. A beginning also presupposes an ending, a consummation, achievement, or goal.”  -James Allen

In reflection of this quote, I really need to learn to implement, action into my life.  I do a ton more than most people, but still its not enough.  I need to have the courage to act on the biggest of my dreams, the grandest of my goals.  I want to be seen as being AMBITIOUS, DRIVEN, and UNSTOPPABLE.  When I have a goal, I want to be able to achieve it.  When people here one of my crazy ideas, I want them to believe that it will become a reality.  Everything starts with an action.  Whether you have the best ideas in the world, or all of the information in the world, if you dont ACT on it, nothing will come of it.  I think i’ve spent enough my life learning how to prepare, learning to get all the information, learning to use my resources to get stuff done. It’s time to spend all of my efforts ACTING on my dreams.  Whether I finish them or not, whether I get distracted or not, it does not matter. As the quote says, with an impulse comes results. With cause comes effect. 

Its time to cause an effect.